In The News

Jul 25, 2010

I had a wonderful experience being interviewed by Emily Schmul, of the Mormon Times section of Deseret News recently. She wrote a beautiful article about our little Lucy.

You can read the article HERE.

I hadn't talked about Lucy in a while. Speaking with Emily was healing for me. It was so freeing to be able to share my thoughts and feelings over the phone without fear of being judged. I just spit it all out. I could say "Lucy" as many times as I wanted. I hung up the phone and sobbed. I realized that I don't talk about her as much as I would like.

We had the Hibbert Family over last weekend. They lost their little boy, Mason, after he choked on a pretzel. They have become very dear friends to us. Our stories are almost identical. Charlotte Hibbert was asking me if I ever have the overwhelming urge to say Lucy's name. To just speak it and let the sound fall from my lips. She said she sometimes yells her son's name while she's on a run, or going down a water slide, or out in the mountains. "MASON!" She just needs to hear it.

Interestingly, I had never thought of it in that way before. I have felt the emotion associated with that desire to speak Lucy's name--to feel her alive and near me. But I had never put it into words, or better yet, action. My interview with Emily made that possible for me, if only for a moment, "Lucy, Lucy, Lucy." Charlotte said one of the most comforting things anyone said to her at Mason's viewing, was from a woman who had lost a child nearly 20 years previously. She took Charlotte by the shoulders, looked her in the eyes and said, "I still miss her. Every. Single. Day. I say goodnight to her as I go to sleep and I say good morning as soon as I wake up."

I think I'm going to start doing that. It has always been in my heart, but it is time to start saying it out loud.


 


Comments

Shad Vick on 07/26/2010
We enjoyed reading this interview. Glad things are going well. Love Shad and Jen.

David Goates on 07/29/2010
After reading your inspiring story in the Deseret News and visiting your website earlier in the week, I had an experience last night that reminded me again of my feelings over the "loss" of our infant daughter to SIDS on a wintry day in 1992. You can read about my experience here: http://thegoateskids.blogspot.com/2010/07/losing-adrienne.html. Thanks for the inspiration you are providing to many others, as you did to me.

Sharon on 08/02/2010
I enjoyed reading your wonderful story in the Mormon Times. Talking aboout helping people with headstones really hit home. My son passed away in December and I had a hard time ordering his headstone. I didn't order it until after Memorial Day, because of the expense and then just not being motivated to decide on what to put on the headstone. Thanks for sharing and helping others!! Helping others surely does help us heal!!

Julie on 09/07/2010
What a beautiful mother, wife, and friend to so many you are!!!! I feel as if I know your sweet Lucy.... what a testimant that is to you sweet Mommy!!!! You are helping us all to learn from her. Thank you! BIG HUGS!!! presleyfam.blogspot.com


Leave a comment

Name

Email

URL

Comment

Security Code
captcha
please type security code, it helps us fight spam