Love at First Sight

Apr 22, 2010

Is there really such thing as love at first sight?  For me, there was.  I will never forget the first time I saw Shawn Marti.  He took my breath away and made my heart beat faster.  He was all I could think about and the only one I wanted to be with. 


My first date with Shawn Marti was on August 10, 2000.  When he called me again and asked for a second date, I was elated.  The best- looking, funniest, and nicest guy I had ever met wanted to date me!  I had no objections.  Our dating life lasted 5 months before he asked me to marry him. We were married 4 months later on May 11, 2001.  His feelings for me were encapsulated in a note he gave me saying, “Natalie- I hope you know how much I love and care for you.  You make me smile even when you are not around and I know everything will work out for us.  I adore you and I love you, Shawn” 


Shawn brought so much joy and happiness into my life.  He helped me become a better person and lit up every room he was in.  We became parents when our little girl, Sage was born in September of 2002. She was everything to us and we were so proud to be her parents.   We went everywhere together and it thrilled me.


Five months after Sage was born, I experienced a loss that I wish I never would have. On February 27, 2003, Shawn, Sage, and I were driving on the freeway back to our home in Caldwell, Idaho. We had attended a musical Shawn’s sister was in at Boise High School.  Shawn was driving in the passing lane behind another vehicle.  The road curved slightly ahead, so that a driver could not see beyond the overpass in front of us.  The vehicle directly ahead of us suddenly swerved to the right, in front of a semi truck in the slow lane.  In less than a second, our small Toyota Camry was instantly shredded by a Chevrolet pickup truck that had just ploughed through it.  The pickup was driving eastbound on the westbound freeway at a speed of 98 mph.  There is no possible way, according to the Idaho State Police Reconstructionist, that Shawn could have avoided the collision. Not only did Shawn pass away, but my sweet daughter died that day as well.


I wish words could help describe the feelings and ache I have felt with the death of my husband.  It was the death of my best friend, my lover, my other half.  Who did I have to turn to and grieve with at the death of my baby girl?  I have never felt so alone in my life and a part of me died too that night.  I became a widow at the age of 23. 


Family, friends, and strangers did their best to give me words of comfort.  I remember being told numerous times that “it will get easier with time.”  How?  How does time make the death of my husband AND my daughter easier?  Time will not bring them back. 


I am comforted and given peace in knowing we will be together again and I continue to feel him with me. We are separated in this life, but we are bound together for eternity. He continues to be a part of my everyday life and I look forward to the day we are together again

 

* Please read more of Natlie's story HERE. What an inspiration. I am in tears. Thank you, Natalie. I pray you are carried every single day of your life. And please watch this incredibly inspiring video. But be warned, have tissues ready.

 

 


Comments

Jenny Robinson on 04/22/2010
Natalie's story is almost to painful to read but inspiring as well. Putting a stop to drunk driving is the goal of so many, it's wonderful for her to share her voice on the subject.

J Payne on 04/22/2010
Natalie, you are absolutely amazing. I can hardly believe your story. This is, I am sure, anyone's worse nightmare. I am amazed at your desire and ability to make something good out of a situation that would make most people want to hide in a hole. I do wonder if getting to share your story so much as helped you in the healing process?

Keri on 04/23/2010
So very very sorry, Natalie. You are amazing and inspiring to continue on and help others not have to go thru this. God bless you in your journey.

Jenn Clark on 05/05/2010
Wow. I don't know what to say. It's just not fair. I wish you all the best and so admire you for speaking to youth about it. How very brave.

Rebecca on 05/06/2010
What a beautiful story, my life too has been affected by a drunk driver, it is so thoughtless for people to believe that their actions don't have consequnces. Thank you for your bravery, and courage in helping others understand fully how severe the consequences can be!

Jenn Clark on 05/15/2010
Thank you so much for sharing this painful story with us. You are brave to even face the world! It's amazing that you are doing good when dealt with such horrific things. God bless you.

Bridget on 05/16/2010
Wow. I can not imagine how painful this would be. And the loneliness you must feel in spite of being surrounded with people. Your willingness to press forward and to spread your story has affected so many. I wonder about the driver that hit you, too. And his grief and remorse. How terrible for him to know that he caused this sadness. This whole story is heart breaking. Many hugs to you as get up every morning and put a smile on your face and keep living.

Bridget on 05/16/2010
I just watched the video and I'm so glad to see something about Edgar. Forgiveness is powerful. For him and for you. I'm sure it took a lot of courage to face him. Wow.

Carrie Braun on 05/23/2010
Natalie- Thank you for sharing your story. You have a strength that I cannot even begin to imagine. I hope and pray that God will continue to give you strength and immeasurable blessings. Molly- I'm a friend of Kristyn's, and came here to read your story from her blog. What an incredible little girl Lucy was, and thank you for sharing her story. I have an almost two year old, who had a choking incident at 18 months old. Scariest moment of my life. She has fully recovered, but I never will and those feelings resurfaced reading your story. It's incredible how you have taken the light and lessons that Lucy shared with you and turned it into something so beautiful. And, I'll be honest- I've come on and off your site today a few times as reading some of these stories are just incredibly difficult. But I know that what you are doing, the space that you are providing for those who feel they have none, is so necessary and beautiful. Thank you for reaching outside yourself and helping remind me that being a mother is a blessing.

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